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TRU: The Real U

One Woman With Inner Beauty Can Change the World

Fear and Faith

Fear and Faith

By Erin P.

This is a topic I’ve been thinking about a lot lately, but I’ve hesitated to write about it, because I’ve been waiting to have some life-altering experience that would completely change my perspective. And then I could tell all of you how I’ve finally overcome this problem of mine, and this is how it’s done.

Not so. There are some burdens you carry throughout life and you slowly learn to shoulder them. And one of my burdens is fear.

More specifically, I would pinpoint this fear as a fear of being out of control. I am constantly afraid that something will happen that I will not be able to control, and this causes me continual anxiety.

This problem seemed to intensify for me 8 months ago when I got married. Why? Two reasons, I think.

1) I now have someone I care about more than anything or anyone in the world. I don’t want anything to cause him pain. And any pain he experiences is going to affect me.

2) We had a lot of things happen in our family, like death, disease, legal situations, and other things I don’t want to go into.

Because of all this, I found myself at certain times living in fear. What if something happens to me? What if something happens to my husband or someone else I love?

“Riding” the Fear

Because I got in a car accident two years ago, driving has become one of my greatest fears.

car scary

This fear got the best of me when my husband was out of town. It was the first time we’d been apart since our wedding. I thought I was doing fine, but then I was talking to him on the phone while he was driving (remember my fear of car accidents). Suddenly, the line went dead. And I proceeded to have a nervous breakdown. Of course, my mind immediately jumped to the worst conclusions.

A few minutes later, he called me back. Of course, he had been driving through an area with bad service. Duh. I felt so dumb (but also relieved).

Choosing Faith

Lately, I’ve been trying to shift my perspective.

For example, driving is something I have to do every day. So I’m slowly starting to deal with that fear and realizing that yeah, people get in car accidents every day. But chances are, you’re only going to have to deal with a few in your lifetime. So why live in constant fear? Why not enjoy the hundreds of accident-free days you have in life?

car happy

While I still deal with fearful feelings sometimes, and may deal with them for life, my perspective has changed a little. I’ve learned that you can’t live in constant fear that something will happen outside your control. Yes, things happen outside our control sometimes—that’s part of life. But we don’t have to waste our energy worrying about when they will happen. And when something does happen, I want to be the person who asks not “Why me?” but “What can I learn?”

I’m being reminded that God is always in control. If we ask Him for protection while we drive, he really can protect us. If we ask him to comfort us and relieve our fears, He really can do that. And if something happens to us that we think is unfair, we can trust that God knows how to make it right.

What a change perspective makes—faith helps me be confident that although sometimes things are outside my control, they’re never outside God’s control.

Two people may have the exact same life experiences. One person can choose to live in fear and constantly feel that life is unfair. The other can choose faith and learn to see the beauty in life, to learn that trials—yes, even unfair and unexpected ones—have a purpose.

I want to be the one who chooses faith. I’m still working on it, but I’m getting there.

 

Erin created TRU: The Real U so people could share how their faith helps them become stronger people. If you have a story to share, email her at erin.jones@gmail.com.

1 Comment

  1. Vernett Jones
    Feb 4, 2015

    I really enjoyed this article, Erin! One of your best yet!! Thanks for sharing your perspectives, they are great, and thoughout my life I have found them to be true.

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