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Why Your Mom Should Be Your Best Friend

Why Your Mom Should Be Your Best Friend

It makes sense to write a post about moms the week of Mother’s Day. But I actually thought of writing this post before I remembered the holiday coming up. In my mind, every day is Mother’s Day, because moms are awesome. But, if you’re young, it’s likely that you only acknowledge this fact on Mother’s Day, and forget about it during the rest of the year. I know I did when I was a teenager. When I was young, I was often embarrassed by my mother. She is far more extroverted than I am, and would visit my high school, talking to all my friends—and, worst of all, people who weren’t my friends—like they were her best chums. As a fifteen-year-old, this was completely humiliating. I think these feelings are normal for teenagers, so I’m not sure that I could go back and erase them. But I do regret not building a friendship with my mother earlier in life. My mom constantly wanted to know what was going on in my life, but I just wanted to be left alone. I wonder if there was advice I missed out on because I wasn’t willing to listen. When I turned 18 and went out of state to college, I quickly realized who my real friends were. And I was surprised to find that my #1 friend was my mom. I could call her at any time and she would pick up. I could tell her any story about what was going on and she would listen, even with interest. Whether I wanted to complain or share my excitement or ask for a second opinion, she was always there. I came to another realization that one of the main reasons I wanted to visit my home was because of my mom. She made our home a welcoming, fun place to be. She did things for me out of love, and sometimes I just really needed to be pampered. When she wasn’t around, the house was a drab and dull place. Nevertheless, in our new adult-to-adult relationship, she just became a really good friend. We became exercise buddies, shopping buddies, and cooking buddies. We talked about issues and exchanged clothes and jewelry. My mom and me after an exhausting shopping trip But my mom always puts me ahead of herself, even today. “I just bought this shirt that looks great on me,” she’ll say. “But you should have it, because it will look even better on you.” That’s pretty typical of my mom. If you don’t have a good relationship with your mother, let’s just say—you’re missing out big time. So put aside your annoyance at those little things your mom does that bug you. Everyone does things that are going to bug you. Instead, remember the one person who would do anything in the world to make you happy. Make your mom your best friend. I dare you! Erin J. has an amazing mom who always made mothering seem like the world’s most exciting adventure. Erin is the founder of TRU and is a young adult writer. Her first novel, Walls, is available for purchase on Amazon Kindle. Share...

Date or Dump: Signs of a Healthy (or Unhealthy) Relationship

Date or Dump: Signs of a Healthy (or Unhealthy) Relationship

You just started to date the most amazing guy. Is this the relationship you dreamed of—or could it turn into a relationship nightmare? I will add a disclaimer to this post by saying that I just got engaged to the most wonderful man in the world. Feel free to gag or sigh (depending on your preference), but hear me out. I’m 26 years old—still pretty young, but not exactly a spring chicken. My fiancé is the first man I seriously dated, the first man I kissed, and the first man I told, “I love you.” Is this the way everyone should treat relationships? No, not necessarily. But I included this because I wanted to let you know that THE RIGHT GUYS ARE WORTH THE WAIT! I have seen enough messy relationships and heartbreak to know that it is NOT worth it to continue to drag out an unproductive relationship with a guy who isn’t right for you. And, if you’ve never dated anyone and you feel old, that’s no reason to date a guy who doesn’t meet your standards. It’s easier to be happy single than in a miserable relationship. Let me say that again: It’s easier to be happy single than in a miserable relationship! I’m not saying you have to find a perfect Prince Charming—everyone has faults—but you CAN find a guy who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Of course, you, your boyfriend, and God are the only ones who can ultimately determine whether you are in a healthy relationship. But to help you out, here are 3 signs the guy you’re dating may be the right one (or may not be): You feel happy and at peace when you’re with him. Being a natural worrywart, sometimes when I was away from my fiancé (before he was my fiancé), I would start questioning the relationship. But then every time I was with him, I just felt good and peaceful. It was like a sigh of relief. If you feel conflicted, anxious, or fearful when you’re with this guy . . . well . . . I can’t say you’ll NEVER feel this way, because that’s part of life. But if it’s making up the majority of your emotions when you’re with him, that’s not a good sign. He makes you feel loved and appreciated. Your significant other should make you want to be a better person, but this shouldn’t stem from criticism or “you’re not good enough” kinds of attitudes. The majority of the vibes you should get from him are that he really likes you for who you are. Some guys are more complimentary than others, but the majority of what he says about you should be uplifting and positive (and hopefully he compliments things about you besides just your looks!). If your guy is constantly criticizing, or sends you the vibe that you’re not enough, it’s time to have a chat and let him know how you feel. If he’s a good guy, he’ll listen to what you have to say and take it to heart. He puts you as a priority. I firmly believe that God should be #1 in your relationship. You should be open to talking about your beliefs and practicing aspects of your faith together (whether that means praying, going to church, doing service, or however else you practice your religion). But your significant other should be a really important priority, too (once they’re your spouse, they should be #2). My fiancé and I were worried about having enough time together because his schoolwork was so demanding. So we talked about our concerns and how we could still make each other a priority. He agreed to study at my apartment sometimes, and he always schedules activities with me and stops by to say goodnight. Even though some days he has less time than other days, at least I know he’s working to make me a priority in his life. If your guy constantly puts other things ahead of spending time with you, you need to tell him your feelings. If he doesn’t see this as a problem, you need to realize that the problem might not change. Good Luck! And a Disclaimer This advice is only for those in a serious relationship leading to marriage. If you’re a teenager, the guys you date probably aren’t mature enough yet to make these kinds of commitments, so it’s best to leave serious dating for when you’re older. Hopefully these tips are helpful to you. Even though I used to feel bad that I hadn’t dated a lot of guys, now I’m extremely grateful...